By Orit Krug  |  February 1st, 2022

People mostly assume relationships fail because of incompatibility, but that’s not the full answer.

Relationships often fail because one or more partners have too much unresolved trauma that prevents them from creating a healthy, lasting connection. Even through normal conflicts and differences.

Unless you and your partner have wildly different moral values, you can attribute most common relationship issues to old trauma.

Let’s dig a little deeper now to see if past trauma is causing your relationship(s) to fail.

Past trauma usually creates major cracks in any relationship’s foundation.

Most people in this world have experienced some type of relationship trauma at least once in their lives.

Some may never realize it. Trauma isn’t always as obvious as an abusive relationship, or an incident of sexual assault.

Trauma can also happen in the sneakiest ways.

Neglect can happen if you’re a child among many siblings and you didn’t get the amount of attention you felt you deserved.

Emotional abandonment can happen as an infant when you’re screaming for your parents but they’re too burnt out to respond.

You could’ve grown up in a perfectly loving childhood home, but got bullied in your social environments. That can be a rejection trauma.

If you’re consistently having relationship problems and you can’t seem to figure out why, it’s safe to assume that you’ve experienced trauma.

Trauma is the most common underlying reason why it’s so difficult for people to stay in such intimate connection and relationships.

How unresolved trauma impacts our ability to have successful relationships.

Trauma creates a major negative impact on your nervous system functioning.

See, our nervous system is designed to keep us alive and protect us from danger. You can think of it as your inner-alarm system.

After a traumatic event, your inner alarm system becomes WAY more sensitive. Interactions and situations that used to feel safe, now feel threatening. It’s like a broken house alarm that gets triggered even when there is no threat of an intruder.

When your nervous system is this hypervigilant, it makes it near impossible to sustain a healthy relationship, because NOTHING feels safe.

This is why so many relationships fail.

When your partner is stressed after a long day of work and gets quiet, you may impulsively perceive this as a threat of abandonment.

When you need space from your partner in order to have independent self-care time, your partner may react as if you don’t really love them.

These stories aren’t true. But they feel VERY real to your nervous system and body because your brain on trauma cannot distinguish past events from current reality.

Unresolved past trauma makes relationships feel SO hard. It can be hard to believe that relationships can truly be easy and bring you such deep, incredible joy.

Is your relationship failing?

Perhaps you’ve nodded your head a few times through this blog. You recognize that you often feel scared that your partner will leave. Maybe you’re always pointing out what’s wrong with the relationship. You know that you both overreact and things become uglier than they need to be.

Does this mean that your relationship is failing?

Not necessarily!

Ok, yes, things get ugly sometimes. You experience cycles of feeling really good together and then it all falls apart. You’ve thought many times about ending things. You’ve probably even suggested it out loud.

But unless you’re in an unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationship, you may want to reconsider if this is actually the end

Not sure if your relationship is healthy or unhealthy? Try this free meditation to learn the truth.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve already done couples counseling, conflict resolution techniques, etc. Most of these approaches are actually surface level and don’t address the trauma being stored in your nervous systems and bodies.

You can change the script of how you speak to each other but the underlying trauma will continue to hijack your relationship and ability to communicate calmly, if you don’t shift the way you’re non-verbally interacting.

What does this mean?

Well, for example, you may approach your partner with nicer words and a calmer tone, but your body language is still aggressive and saying, “Don’t f*ck with me!”

Or you may hear your partner saying different words, but you’re still perceiving them in the same exact way – a person who will inevitably hurt you. So you keep your guard up and nothing ever changes.

Please don’t assume your relationship is failing even if you’re having the same problems over again.

Try my suggestions first to get much deeper clarity and insight if you can save your relationship and make it better than ever before.

3 simple strategies to try before you call it quits.

1. Communicate without words FIRST.

So many couples are stuck in the same patterns because they’re running the same scripts over and over. They communicate to each other with the same or similar words. Meanwhile, they remain disconnected from their bodies and nothing changes.

This is important because the mind is filled with so many defenses and filters. It doesn’t matter how much mindset work you’ve done. As human beings, we will always have a filter on what we verbally say, because we have the ability to pick and choose our words.

If you try communicating to your partner without words, it instantly changes the entire dynamic.

You’ll be able to see each other much more clearly without the filler & noise of words. You’ll see each other’s body language and facial expression much more clearly. This gives you SPACE to mirror, attune, and match each other in a way that makes you both feel more seen than ever before.

This strategy took my clients’ Gina & Sam’s relationship to a whole new level. They constantly missed each other even though they often communicated their needs. Through my Deeper Love couples program, they instantly felt a much deeper connection by moving together and interacting non-verbally before having a verbal exchange.

This was so powerful for them that they made this their baseline strategy whenever they reconnected after being apart. First movement, then words.

You don’t need to be in my program to try this out too. Make an agreement to spend the first 5 minutes of each day (or when you see each other after work) without words, and mirror each other’s movements. See what difference it makes when you meet in this new way!

2. Reposition your bodies.

You may not realize it, but you probably position your bodies in the same or similar way each time you have an important discussion. One of you may always stand up while the other sits down. Or you stand really close to each other. Maybe too close.

My client Brigid, who did my Let Love In program, tried something different in her marriage that helped her to stop freezing whenever they had a serious conversation. She began to stand across the kitchen counter. The distance, and barrier between them, helped calm down her nervous system.

Even though her husband was never abusive to her, her past trauma made her believe that he could be at any moment. So having a physical barrier between them helped her stay present and calm until she developed her own ability to trust that her relationship was safe.

How can you change your position when you have a serious talk with your partner? Does it help to sit side-by-side in the car? Do you need to be on the same height level? Experiment with what feels good for you both and see how it changes your ability to communicate in a healthier way.

3. Change up the scenery.

It’s helpful to do as much as possible to keep your nervous system regulated when you feel upset or anxious in your relationship.

Try taking a walk together outside when you have a serious talk. Light some candles and dim the lights before expressing a vulnerable need. Put on some relaxing music that makes you both feel more calm and light.

And please, try not bring up something serious when you’re angry. You’ll get much better results once you’re truly calm.

The most important factor in preventing your relationship from failing.

The strategies above may be enough to make a huge difference in your relationship.

However, they won’t help you if your nervous system and body are SO reactive that you can’t realistically put any of them into practice.

Get on the right path to healing trauma from your body and nervous system.

Many people spend decades and thousands of dollars in traditional therapies trying to heal their trauma. Unfortunately, even the most popular therapies are scientifically shown to be limited in accessing trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body.

Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal from the physical body or the nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for so many people. They often blame themselves for being “un-healable” and decide that they’re broken.

This is NOT true!

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing from the past, because we all have wiring and neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection, to love and openness.

My unique, scientific-backed process via Dance Therapy has helped hundreds of clients finally heal from past trauma and transform their relationship (even after decades of trying in other therapies).

You can heal too, but you need the right methodology.

Sign up for my online course (ranges from free to $20 USD) to begin a unique, body-based learning experience that will teach you:

• Science-backed education about how trauma is stored in your body and nervous system. You’ll gain an understanding why it has NOT been your fault you haven’t healed yet from past trauma.
• Gentle, guided body-based movement that is necessary for integrated healing. This is crucial if you want your mind’s intentions to match your body’s behaviors in relationships.
• An embodied approach to healing that has helped hundreds of clients break unhealthy relationship patterns and let in healthy, lasting love.

Click here now to sign up!

By Orit Krug  |  January 7th, 2022

Do you feel disconnected from your partner because the relationship is dying or because your old trauma is making you pull away?

Maybe you have the same revolving thoughts about why you feel disconnected:

“We’ve been together for so long. We lost the spark.”

“I’ve gained too much weight – he’s just not that into me anymore.”

“Maybe there’s someone better out there for me…?”

Ok, stop!

These anxious thoughts are actually making you MORE disconnected from your partner because you’re stuck in your head instead of being more present in your relationship.

Let’s talk about the real reason why you feel disconnected from your partner.

Unresolved trauma makes you feel disconnected even when you’re in a loving, connected relationship.

You’ll know this is true for you when you wake up most mornings feeling disconnected from life itself.

You don’t feel very excited for your day and you feel an overall heaviness or dread in your body.

Even when you wake up next to your partner, and you hear yourself make a gratitude list about how great they are… your body feels nothing.

This is what trauma does to us when it’s been trapped in our bodies for so long. It makes us disconnect from ourselves and our relationships.

Why? Because it’s a self-protective, survival mechanism.

The story repeating in your body and nervous system is that LOVE isn’t safe. LIFE isn’t safe.

The last time you allowed yourself to live and love openly, you got very hurt. So now it’s safer to have your guard up and not feel anything. Hence, the disconnection.

You cannot feel a spark in your relationship if you feel dead and numb on the inside.

If you don’t feel an aliveness within your own body, how could you possibly feel a charge or excitement with anyone else?

Unresolved trauma makes it almost neurophysiologically impossible to truly, deeply FEEL anything. Your nervous system won’t risk feeling on that level, because it could open you up to deep pain and hurt again.

Even if you know logically that your current partner isn’t a threat to your safety, this will still happen. It only takes a tiny, faint trigger of past trauma to set off your inner alarm system. Like when your partner looks at you in a subtly different way, or is checked out after a long day at work.

Your nervous system will automatically read these signs as a risk of abandonment & rejection, and then go into over-protection mode. This is what disconnects you from your body and your relationship over and over again.

Learn the quickest way to feel connected to your partner again.

Past trauma makes you disconnect from your body to numb and dissociate from feeling anything potentially hurtful.

If you’re disconnected from feeling anything inside your body, you certainly won’t feel a spark or connection with your partner.

Can you honestly say that you feel love, compassion, and excitement within yourself? If you don’t, you’re not going to feel that with your partner either.

Now you might be thinking, “I know, I know, Orit, I gotta love myself first to feel love for anyone else. Heard it a million times!” 

That’s exactly what my client Kim said too when she was sharing how healing her trauma completely saved her life (you can watch her talk about it here).

Listen, I’m not here to tell you all the cliché sayings you already know. But I will say, you won’t believe any of that b*s until you feel it in your body. 

You have to be able to feel all types of sensations come up in your body and not disconnect at the first feeling of discomfort or fear. 

If you want to achieve that, this free meditation will show you exactly how to begin doing that.

Once you’re comfortable with feeling all sensations in your body, you can start to feel all the good things too: excitement, love, empathy, connection, and so much more.

You will have the capacity to experience a deep connected love that you never even thought was possible for you, without the drama or crippling fear.

Rewire your nervous system and feel safe to experience deep love and connection.

Remember: it’s not your fault that you’ve learned to disconnect from everyone, including yourself.

Trauma taught you to do this as a life-saving strategy. You may not have emotionally survived if you didn’t disconnect from your body during your traumatic experiences. It was such a smart thing for your body to do. 

But now you must let your brain and body know that you don’t need this coping mechanism anymore.

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.

By Orit Krug  |  December 16th, 2021

Are you putting up walls to protect yourself from legitimate pain, or is it old trauma making you believe you’ll get hurt?

It can be really hard to tell the difference when you’ve experienced unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationships in the past.

You might logically know that your current relationship is loving and supportive. You may see all the signs that your partner is dedicated to you and thinks you’re incredible.

But no matter how many signs you see or lists you make, you still put up walls to protect yourself in your relationship.

This is NOT your fault. There is a real science behind why you do this.

Putting up walls to protect yourself is a trauma pattern that’s currently wired in your body and nervous system.

It doesn’t matter how much evidence you have that your partner is healthy and safe. All your nervous system can focus on are the littlest things that remind you of how you got hurt in the past.

Even if your partner is generally showing how much they care and love you, it only takes one tiny slip-up to hijack your survival system in overprotection mode.

Let’s say your partner buys your favorite treat whenever they go to the grocery store. They just love seeing your face light up because they know how much you love blueberry muffins.

One day, your partner comes home from the grocery store with all the necessities, but no blueberry muffins.

Red signals and alarms immediately go off in your nervous system and your rational brain goes offline:

“He doesn’t love me anymore!”

“He’s leaving me!”

“He’s cheating on me!”

It all happens within a split second and you end up reacting before you know it. You might accuse your partner of all these things or go into freeze mode and completely shut them out.

Once you come back to calm, hours or days later, you realize you completely overreacted. Your rational brain comes back online and you think, “I’m so crazy. Why did I say those things… again?!”

You’re NOT crazy, but you continue to act irrationally. In fact, your rational brain has absolutely NO say in the matter when your trauma gets triggered, by something even as small as this. This is because the higher-functioning, rational part of the brain becomes overpowered by the brain’s fear center (Amygdala) in these triggering moments. When the fear center is activated, your body and nervous system immediately go into self-protection mode to keep you safe, even if there’s no real danger.

Remember, it’s not your fault. This is the way that old trauma rewires your nervous system and brain. Fortunately, we have amazing brains and bodies that can be rewired from a constant state of fear, to a baseline of calm, openness, and trust.

You’re putting walls up because you don’t believe that you’re worthy of love.

It’s hard enough that your nervous system reacts at the first “sign” of your partner disappointing you. It’s even more difficult when you can’t even take in the acts of love when they’re 100% there for you.

Because you experienced so much hurt in the past, you believe that – no matter what your partner does – you’ll eventually get rejected or abandoned. And, there’s no possible way that someone could love YOU.

You might think, “Why would someone want to be with me?” You might see yourself as damaged goods and unlovable.

Because this belief feels very real to you, your nervous system goes on high alert, especially when things are going well.

Healthy acts of love feel suspicious to you. It makes you wonder if your partner is hiding something.

You may also believe that it’s TOO good to last. You “know” your partner will eventually turn into a monster and sh*t will inevitably hit the fan.

This explains why you’re putting up walls to protect yourself even when things are going swimmingly in your relationship.

Learn the difference between “red flags” and normal relationship behavior.

In a normally healthy relationship, your partner will sometimes go the extra mile to make you happy and sweep you off your feet.

In other phases of your relationship, your partner will be more busy, stressed, and distracted. They won’t have the energy to do anything other than the basics: take out the trash and kiss you goodnight.

Sometimes, your partner will be incredibly impressed by you and won’t be able to keep their hands off you. Other times, your partner will feel bored. They’ll prefer to binge watch TV than be intimate.

As a healthy, loving partner, you will experience all of these different phases.

You can still have a baseline of love, respect, and attraction for each other AND go through these dips of excitement in your relationship.

However, unresolved trauma will make you believe that these dips mean SO much more. You’ll feel threatened and overreact. You’ll spend most of your days wondering if your partner is right for you or not. You may sabotage a normal, healthy relationship. Possibly the best one you’ve ever had.

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.

By Orit Krug  |  December 2nd, 2021

Have you been learning to trust again after trauma but it feels like an uphill battle?

Many people feel like it’s nearly impossible to learn to trust again because they’ve spent years–even decades–talking about their trauma.

They’ve learned mindset strategies or tried to talk themselves into trusting. But the truth is, they really don’t FEEL it inside their bodies.

If you’re experiencing this too, it is NOT your fault.

When you experience trauma in any type of relationship, your sense of trust gets shattered.

If you endured trauma within your own family, your parents broke your trust because they were supposed to love and protect you from getting hurt.

If you were heartbroken in a romantic relationship, then you may not even trust yourself for being able to choose a healthy partner.

What’s usually happening underneath all of the trust issues towards other people is that you don’t actually trust yourself.

How trauma makes you doubt every decision you make and lose trust in yourself.

I experienced trauma for most of my life. I also have very overprotective and anxious parents who constantly questioned my decisions and asked every detail about my whereabouts.

Logically, I know that my parents didn’t trust the world around me, but what they indirectly communicated is that I’m not a trustworthy person.

My lack of self-trust became worse during my childhood trauma. I wondered why I deserved to be abused and hurt. And then they told me that what was happening to me wasn’t “abuse.” They told me I was overreacting.

Was I overreacting? Was I just making up stories? I couldn’t even tell anymore. I couldn’t trust my own judgment.

Even when I got into romantic relationships with emotionally unavailable men, I couldn’t trust my ability to choose someone who could actually love me. And, also, could anyone ACTUALLY love me?

It was so confusing and I was really hard on myself. But I can say with 100% certainty today: I fully trust myself.

I rarely second-guess myself. When I do, it’s because I genuinely want to learn if there’s a way I can be and do better. It’s not self-deprecating like it used to be.

You must rebuild trust with yourself in order to trust other people.

You may feel some resistance to this. You may hear yourself saying, “No, I trust myself. It’s everyone else I don’t trust.” But I know from personal & professional experience that not being able to trust others is a direct reflection of not being able to trust yourself.

This is what my former client, Sarah, discovered while we worked together.

When Sarah approached us, it had been 2 years since she broke free from her abusive marriage. She was proud of herself for leaving, but life had been pretty miserable since she walked out.

She shut everyone out and couldn’t trust anyone in her life. Not romantic partners, friends, or family.

Once we began the work to heal trauma from her body, she had a mind-blowing realization that she had no trust in herself.

When we interacted with each other through movement, in session, she constantly questioned her decisions and actions. She didn’t allow her body to lead her. She found herself stuck and relentlessly doubting herself in her mind.

This is what we discovered together just in the first session. It set the foundation for everything we worked on together, moving forward. Gaining the awareness in her body that she didn’t trust herself allowed her to work on herself much more deeply, instead of projecting her issues onto everyone else.

After 2 years of trying to heal in traditional talk therapy, Sarah was quickly and finally able to let love in again because of the trust she developed within herself and her new partner.

The simple step you can take right now to learn to trust again after trauma.

The only person you need to trust is yourself, if you want to be able to trust anyone else.

You must trust that you’ll be able to speak up for your needs and set boundaries in your relationship.

You must trust that you’re able to choose a partner who hopefully won’t abandon you or hurt you.

You must trust that you’ll have enough resilience and self-compassion even if you do end up with a partner who hurts you.

You must trust that you’re amazing and worthy of love so that you believe it when someone says they want to be with you forever.

All of this begins with trusting YOURSELF.

So now, I’m going to guide you through the 1 simple step to start building that trust in yourself.

And I’m going to show you this in movement, because no matter how many times you repeat, “I trust myself. I trust everyone else,” and talk about how you need to trust again… you will not be able to until your body truly feels it.

To begin, skip to 4:18 in the video here to follow my guidance through a safe, gentle movement exercise. In this video, I will help you learn to trust again. You’ll need somewhat of a private space but no previous movement experience is necessary.

Rewire your nervous system so you can enjoy a safe, healthy, long-term relationship.

Coming from past traumatic relationships, you may feel like safe and healthy relationships are not exciting enough. This doesn’t mean that you love abusive partners. It just means you’re physically used to it.

Your nervous system became adapted to the drama and chaos that those relationships brought. So now, relaxed and stable feels painfully boring.

You’re currently wired to thrive under the survival and danger of traumatic relationships. Thus, you need to rewire your nervous system to enjoy your healthy relationship without the rollercoaster.

Once you’re rewired, you can really feel your partner’s love in such a comforting, exciting and meaningful way which isn’t boring at all. It’s honestly one of the best feelings in the world (cheesy, I know).

When your nervous system is calm and regulated enough to connect deeply, then you finally have the ability to make your love stronger.

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.

By Orit Krug  |  November 19th, 2021

I used to go crazy over checking my partner’s phone.

When he came to bed after I was already sleeping, I used to wake up and sneak a peek at what he was doing.

Whenever his phone vibrated, I used to hear myself asking “Who’s he texting?” and look to see if it was another woman.

I even used to borrow his laptop and glance at the names on his iMessages to make sure he wasn’t cheating.

All because of my unresolved trauma around abandonment and rejection.

My husband never cheated on me. I even used to try to catch him checking out other women at music festivals, where clothing is optional. He passed my “test” every time.

I created all these stories in my head about all the ways he could hurt me, and I projected them onto the ways he uses his phone.

None of it was true. I just believed that I was so unworthy of love that he would leave me for anything he read, anyone he talked to, anything he watched through his phone.

Obsessively checking your partner’s phone is an addiction that stems from past trauma.

When you see something “suspicious” on your partner’s phone, like a text from an unknown number, there are two paths you can take next:

1. Investigate further.
2. Trust that it’s nothing and move on.

Before I healed my trauma, I was guilty of always taking the first path. A little research into a random area code turned into “Let me just check all his text messages” and then, “Are there any dating apps on his phone?” And so on.

I couldn’t control myself. Investigating further usually led to an ugly place inside of me.

Once I healed my trauma, I ONLY took path #2, even when I still had that initial thought of, “What if..?”

Once I started to trust myself and understand my worthiness, I believed that I was good enough for someone to commit to me as a lifelong partner.

I trusted that he wasn’t going to leave just because he was texting a new friend.

Old trauma makes us addicted to “knowing.” There’s an urgent, uncontrollable need to KNOW information to protect us from getting hurt again.

“I NEED to know if he’s going to hurt me.”

“I NEED to know if she’s going to leave.”

“I NEED to end this relationship because I’m too anxious about the uncertainty of it all.”

The problem is that we can NEVER have 100% certainty about anything in life. So even as you dig further into your partner’s phone, you’re still left with the unknown.

Maybe you found nothing on their phone. That could still leave you questioning, “What if they’re so good at deleting their messages that I can’t find anything… but they’re still cheating?’

It never ends.

Take the first step to break your addiction to checking your partner’s phone.

The first step to break the addiction is to simply stop yourself from checking anything at all. You have to go cold turkey, because one little snoop fuels the next, and the next… and before you know it, you’re hiring a PI to track down your partner (not really, but maybe?).

It’s REALLY hard when you first hold back from checking your partner’s phone, but it does get easier. There is no other way if you don’t want to sabotage your relationship.

Even if you see something that could be potentially suspicious, you have to ask yourself, “Is it impacting my relationship?”

If you took away all of those pieces of information–that there’s an unknown number in their text inbox, an incognito tab open on their browser, or that your partner’s takes their phone for extended bathroom breaks– if you didn’t know ANY of those things, how does your partner treat you?

Do they treat you well? Does your partner show you how much they love and care about you?

Because that’s all that matters.

None of the suspicions you have are real until they’re real.

The only thing that’s real is how your partner comes home every day and kisses you. Or cooks dinner for you. Or stops at the supermarket to get your favorite snack when you’re feeling sad.

THAT is the truth.

If there are other things bothering you about the relationship, deal with THOSE things. Don’t project it onto lies and made-up stories about what they’re doing with their phone.

Your unresolved trauma is triggered by your partner’s phone and making you push them away.

If your relationship is healthy and loving, but you can’t stop checking your partner’s phone, then you are letting your old trauma ruin your relationship.

Checking your partner’s phone won’t resolve your feelings of unworthiness or insecurities.

You can back up your fears with “facts” like saying that research shows how porn creates more disconnection in relationships. Or how 20% of men cheat on their partners.

Even if those things are true, are they true for YOUR relationship? Or are you just backing up your insecurities with information to “prove” yourself right?

My husband watches porn, and I sometimes do too. We still have an incredible and deep relationship.

I used to get upset that he watches porn, but when I looked at it objectively, he wasn’t any less attentive or attracted to me. I only made up those stories in my head because I was so insecure. Porn was only an issue in our relationship when I made it an issue.

It’s like hearing about your friends who are getting divorced. It immediately creates a fear of, “Are we going to get divorced too?” You have to be so secure in yourself and your relationship that you are able to separate the statistics of what’s going in other relationships from your own.

You have to be completely present in the reality of your relationship to know what’s true.

When there’s unresolved trauma, your brain and nervous system are incapable of staying in the present reality. Any faint reminder of past hurt – whether it’s a “weird” way your partner looked at you when you asked who they’re texting, or that they’ve come home 20 minutes later than usual because they “lost track of time”– they will trigger old memories of past trauma and make it feel like they’re happening ALL over again in the present with your current partner.

If this is happening to you, it doesn’t mean that you’re broken or damaged goods. This is how unresolved trauma impacts everyone. Until you release that trauma from your body and nervous system, it will continue to hijack you at every phone beep, pop-up notification, and more.

Heal the trauma that’s making you insecure and obsess over your partner’s phone.

Being suspicious and constantly communicating a lack of trust with your partner will undoubtedly push them away, especially when your feelings are not based on current reality.

It’s not fair for your partner to carry the burden of your past trauma. Checking your partner’s phone isn’t about them. It’s about you not being able to trust yourself that you’re amazing enough for them to be 100% dedicated to you.

If your partner has told a white lie about something phone-related in the past, then you also may be equally responsible. Did co-create a dynamic in which they felt the need to bend the truth?

I’m not saying it’s your fault. It’s equally their fault AND your fault. Yes, they should be honest with you, AND you also need to create a space where it’s safe to be honest. Have you been so jealous, insecure and controlling that they were afraid to express their truth?

No matter “who started it,” it’s important to resolve your old trauma in order to be able to trust again and enjoy the deepest, loving relationship possible, even if your partner has trauma too.

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.

By Orit Krug  |  November 8th, 2021

You can make your love stronger even if your relationship has been stale for a while.

Let’s first talk about WHY this might be happening in your relationship:

1. You’ve been together for a long time and there’s not much excitement at this point
   
2. There is a numbness and lack of spark inside of you, so you cannot feel it in your relationship either.
3. You’re used to drama and trauma in past relationships, so your safe & healthy relationship today feels boring (we’ll expand on this below)

The first reason is pretty common amongst many couples who’ve been together for a while. But if you resonate with #2 and #3, this is a strong indication of unresolved trauma from your past.

The most common response that people have to unresolved trauma is to disconnect from their bodies. This is to protect themselves from feeling any pain or hurt, which consequently makes them feel numb.

As a result, they become too disconnected from their bodies to enjoy sex or feel an exciting connection with their partners, even through the mundane things of everyday life.

Additionally, unresolved trauma creates a primal instinct to block deeper love and intimacy. Even in a healthy, loving relationship today, your nervous system will primarily operate under the belief that your partner WILL hurt you like the others did in the past, and push away intimacy.

The first step to make your love stronger is to safely and gently connect back into your body.

Blocking, numbing, and repressing feelings in your body was a brilliant coping strategy when you experienced trauma. If you didn’t escape your body this way, you would’ve had to endure all the physical or emotional pain that your abusers put you through.

But now, it’s necessary to start being in your body again and FEELING in order to make your love stronger and enjoy intimacy with your partner.

When you block out “negative emotions,” you also prevent yourself from feeling the good ones too. Love, excitement, joy, connection. These all get buried under a thick layer of armor too.

This is what creates numbness and a lack of spark within you.

It’s understandable that past trauma would make you want to disconnect from your body to guard yourself from anything that could potentially hurt you. 

This is normal. This is the way you’re wired now, because you still are holding on to this trauma in your body.

But once you start to feel alive in your body, you can feel more alive in your relationship. You can also feel safer to invite more intimacy and make bolder moves in your relationship.

Once you release trauma from your body, you stop carrying it into all parts of your relationship.

One of our former clients, Melissa, began working with us because she had trouble forming a strong, healthy sexual relationship with her partner. 

They had an amazing emotional connection, but she brought all of her trauma into the bedroom.

As we worked together to release her trauma, Melissa also started trying on more enlivening, passionate, strong, and fiery movements in her body. This was a way for her to experiment with feeling and expressing herself more powerfully.

While Melissa became more comfortable CHOOSING the way she wanted to express herself through her body, she started feeling free of heaviness and more daring to follow her impulses. 

This translated to being able to initiate sex with her partner and be more spontaneous. Instead of always stopping herself for fear of, “What will he think if I just take his hand and skip down the sidewalk together?” She just did it.

At the end of her work with us, she said, “You know, I came here to resolve my sexual intimacy issues, but I got so much more.”

“The thing that changed my life forever is that I finally feel ALIVE for the first time.”

She described that feeling her body again was this huge shifting, opening feeling. Almost like she was entering an entirely new way of being in her body, life, and relationship.

Being comfortable in her body helped her feel more pleasure and confidence with sexual intimacy. It also impacted the way she connected to every part of her life.

Rewire your nervous system so you can enjoy a safe, healthy, long-term relationship.

Coming from past traumatic relationships, you may feel like safe and healthy relationships are not exciting enough. This doesn’t mean that you love abusive partners. It just means you’re physically used to it. 

Your nervous system became adapted to the drama and chaos that those relationships brought. So now, relaxed and stable feels painfully boring.

You’re currently wired to thrive under the survival and danger of traumatic relationships. Thus, you need to rewire your nervous system to enjoy your healthy relationship without the rollercoaster.

Once you’re rewired, you can really feel your partner’s love in such a comforting, exciting and meaningful way which isn’t boring at all. It’s honestly one of the best feelings in the world (cheesy, I know).

When your nervous system is calm and regulated enough to connect deeply, then you finally have the ability to make your love stronger. 

Sign up for my online course (ranges from free to $20 USD) to begin a unique, body-based learning experience that will teach you:

• Science-backed education about how trauma is stored in your body and nervous system. You’ll gain an understanding why it has NOT been your fault you haven’t healed yet from past trauma.
• Gentle, guided body-based movement that is necessary for integrated healing. This is crucial if you want your mind’s intentions to match your body’s behaviors in relationships.
• An embodied approach to healing that has helped hundreds of clients break unhealthy relationship patterns and let in healthy, lasting love.

Click here to sign up now!

By Orit Krug  |  September 24th, 2021

You’re finally with a healthy, loving partner, so why do you still have a fear of rejection in relationships?

Your fear of rejection in relationships might be confusing the heck out of you. Part of you that knows how amazing your partner treats you. But there’s a much LOUDER part that points out all the ways your partner could hurt you.

If this is happening for you, then this is a strong sign that you’re storing trauma in your body from past relationships.

Even though your mind knows that your partner is committed to you and loves you, your body feels all this anxiety and fear about getting heartbroken. 

Your mind may even obsess over every single word your partner says, or the subtle way they squinted their eyes when they said it. 

Hours later, deep into your circle of thoughts, you find your shoulders all the way up to your ears. This fear creates so much tension in your body.

This isn’t your fault. This is how old unresolved trauma impacts our ability to enjoy life and love.

Trauma fuels your fear of rejection in relationships, even when there’s no real threat.

This is NOT a reflection of your character and it does NOT mean you are damaged goods.

Old trauma stored in the body creates irrational fear in the nervous system and brain. 

Even if your trauma happened over 20 years ago, the threat of the past repeating today feels SO intense. Almost as if it’s happening all over again (time itself does not heal trauma).

Read: How long does it take to heal from trauma?

You’ve gotten majorly hurt in past relationships. Thus, you hold the belief in your body that ALL relationships end in hurt. Even when there’s clear, practical evidence that you’re safe and supported with your current partner.

You may repeat affirmations that you are safe or worthy of love, but the part of your mind that says these words cannot access the part of your brain & body where your trauma is stored.

Talking about your fear of rejection in relationships will not heal the trauma that’s fueling it.

We cannot possibly heal trauma through talking, journaling, or affirmations. These exercises speak ONLY to the higher-functioning part of the brain, or your prefrontal cortex.

Yet, your trauma is stored in your NON-VERBAL primal brain, which does not understand verbal language. 

It’s like speaking French to someone who only understands English. 

You can hear all the words in the world, like “I am worthy of love!” or “I am safe with my partner!” But the part of your brain and body that’s storing trauma will not be able to comprehend it.

You have to speak your non-verbal brain & body’s language to begin to process and heal trauma. And the language of the body is MOVEMENT.

Break free from your fear of rejection by healing your trauma through movement.

My client Shay was so afraid of rejection (and intimacy) that her body would literally freeze up whenever she spoke to a new love interest.

Because the “freeze” response is an ancient nervous system response, we knew that her trauma was being triggered just by LOOKING at someone she was interested in potentially dating.

Through working together in my dance therapy-based program, Let Love In, she was able to rewire her nervous system to stop freezing at the slightest chance of intimacy.

We practiced this directly through our therapeutic relationship. One thing we did was literally move closer together and further away. When we moved closer, she felt her anxiety rise and an immediate urge to completely disconnect from me and her body.

Slowly and gradually, I helped her use specific movements that helped her stay regulated in her nervous system and stay connected to me even through the fear she felt in her body. 

Eventually, she was able to be fully present and calm when we got closer to each other. This was an essential breakthrough in her trauma healing because this experience directly translated to her external relationships in her world. Instead of being intensely afraid of rejection, she was finally able to invite more intimacy and love in her life. This was the transformation she had wanted for so long, but her body wouldn’t allow it until doing this work together!

Get on the right path to healing trauma from your body and nervous system.

Many people spend decades and thousands of dollars in traditional therapies trying to heal their trauma. Unfortunately, even the most popular therapies are scientifically shown to be limited in accessing trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body.

Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal from the physical body or the nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for so many people. They often blame themselves for being “un-healable” and decide that they’re broken.

This is NOT true!

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing from the past, because we all have wiring and neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection, to love and openness.

My unique, scientific-backed process via Dance Therapy has helped hundreds of clients finally heal from past trauma and transform their relationship (even after decades of trying in other therapies).

You can heal too, but you need the right methodology.

Sign up for my online course (ranges from free to $20 USD) to begin a unique, body-based learning experience that will teach you:

• Science-backed education about how trauma is stored in your body and nervous system. You’ll gain an understanding why it has NOT been your fault you haven’t healed yet from past trauma.
• Gentle, guided body-based movement that is necessary for integrated healing. This is crucial if you want your mind’s intentions to match your body’s behaviors in relationships.
• An embodied approach to healing that has helped hundreds of clients break unhealthy relationship patterns and let in healthy, lasting love.

Click here now to sign up!

By Orit Krug  |  September 10th, 2021

Are you in the wrong relationship or is unresolved trauma tricking your brain?

Do you constantly switch between wondering if you’re in the wrong relationship, and then being totally head-over-heels for your partner? If so, you probably have old trauma still stored in your body. 

One day you’re in love with your partner and fully believe you’ll be together forever.

The next day, you’re overcome with anxiety and thoughts like, “I don’t think I can do this anymore” while planning your secret escape.

This isn’t because you’re in an unhealthy or toxic relationship. In fact, when you objectively think about your relationship, you know it’s the healthiest, most amazing partnership you’ve ever been in.

But, too often, you flip like a switch. If your partner isn’t texting you enough, you no longer feel like your relationship is stable.

If your partner is quiet, you immediately assume that they no longer want to be with you. That’s when you start to create your exit plan so you can leave them FIRST.

This isn’t a reflection of your character. This is TRAUMA controlling your ability to feel calm and safe in a healthy relationship. 

To cope, your mind makes up stories that you’re in the wrong relationship. Because that’s safer than totally letting your guard down and letting yourself be fully loved.

Should you trust the voices that say you’re in the wrong relationship?

Whether it’s the voices in your own head, or your friends (aka, unqualified “therapists”), you may want to pause before you believe them.

My client Corrie used to have thoughts of leaving her husband every single day. She had been through decades of talk therapy and alternative approaches trying to resolve this.

She consistently came home from work and flipped out at her husband and daughter. Her baselines was snappy and frustrated. And she blamed this on the relationship.

She felt intense urges to run away, which was her Flight response hijacking her body and emotions. The threat of being in her relationship felt so real, like stumbling upon a bear in the wild. She truly felt she needed to escape. Fast.

While she spent all those years feeling like damaged goods, she didn’t realize how much her nervous system controlled & intensified her fear of being in her marriage.

But once we helped her release her trauma through her BODY, she said all of her relationship doubts & anxiety dissipated. She finally felt calm and rooted, not only in her relationship, but inside her skin as well.

Corrie went from thinking she was in the wrong relationship DAILY to becoming so much closer with her husband and daughter. 

For the first time, she enjoyed her life with them and even felt excited about their future together.

If Corrie trusted those voices in her head, and followed primal urges in her body to leave, she would’ve broken apart her family. All based on false beliefs due to old trauma making her feel that NO relationship is safe.

How do you know if it’s trauma tricking you into believing you’re in the wrong relationship?

There are several ways you can tell this is old trauma running the show:

1. You have a strong track record of Relationship Anxiety, where you constantly fear that your partner isn’t right for you. No matter how many relationships you leave, you always feel the same doubts & fears in the next one.
2. Your partner is emotionally stable, but you cycle between being high & in love with your partner to low & hopeless about your future together.
3. The tiniest “signs” set you off. For example, your partner’s tone was “slightly different” when answering your question about where they went after work. Or, they didn’t answer their phone at the grocery store because it was on “Do Not Disturb.”
4. There has been absolutely NO evidence that your partner is disloyal or doesn’t love you, but you cannot trust them no matter what they say or do.

Once you experience trauma, your nervous system becomes wired to look for danger signs even when there are none. That’s because its #1 mission is to keep you from getting hurt like you did in the past. 

It’s like an animal in the wild who senses every vibration and smell to make sure they won’t get eaten alive by a predator.

You sense your partner’s TINIEST mistakes or things they said “wrong” as the biggest betrayals. When in reality, there is no perfect relationship and you are each bound to mess up every now and then.

Even if there are TRULY questionable things that your partner has done, you won’t know for sure if you’re in the wrong relationship until you heal your trauma. 

Unresolved trauma creates so much confusion because you’re wired to automatically react to protect your life, even when you rationally know that you are safe. 

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.

By Orit Krug  |  August 27th, 2021

Let’s talk about what to do when past trauma is affecting your relationship with your partner today.

It’s the worst feeling when you’re finally with the healthiest, most loving partner, but past trauma is affecting your relationship. 

You may be sabotaging your connection or constantly worried that they’re going to leave at any moment. If you’re at all the way I was, you can’t stop imagining that they’ll turn into a monster like your abusers were to you.

It’s ironic. Your fear of abandonment and rejection is actually making you abandon and reject your partner.

When you’re constantly absorbed in your fears and thoughts of “what-if,” you’re not present in your relationship for your partner.

You’re either stuck in the past or constantly worrying about what might happen in the future. This makes you emotionally absent and neglect your partner. The very same thing you’re afraid of them doing to you.

Recognize that your fear of being hurt is making you hurt your partner.

If past trauma is affecting your relationship by rejecting your partner’s acts of love (because you don’t believe it), questioning your ability to trust them, and creating stories about how they’re going to hurt you… then you’re hurting them in almost the same way you fear them hurting you. 

My client Lavinia used to constantly reject her husband’s acts of love and intimacy. She pushed him away when he wanted to be physically closer and she dissociated during sexual intimacy.

Deep down she wanted to feel unconditionally loved and wanted, but her fear of intimacy and abandonment made her communicate to her husband that she didn’t want him (which is not actually the case).

When your fear of abandonment or intimacy is making you reject your partner, then past trauma is affecting your relationship because you cannot let in the love that’s right in front of you. Yet, all you want to do is FEEL and be loved.

Release the trauma through your body to free yourself of self-sabotaging fears.

When you experience trauma, you store those memories in your body and nervous system. 

This rewires your brain and nervous system to be on constant high alert and make a whole lot of problems out of nothing.

It makes you hypervigilant to see the tiniest things as huge red flags or warning signs that your partner is going to hurt you.

Because all of this is occurring in your BODY and primal nervous system, you cannot talk yourself into behaving a different way. You cannot repeat affirmations or journal about it, and expect it to be resolved.

This is also because the higher-functioning part of your brain, that uses verbal language and cognitive planning, goes offline during trauma and any time you get triggered.

Hence, you did not store the majority of your trauma in words, so you cannot access those memories in words. Which means you also cannot use words or conscious thought to release trauma.

In order to release body-stored trauma, you must access the memories through the body. You must speak the language of the body, which is movement.

Through a specialized process where you connect to your body through movement, you CAN heal your trauma and rewire your nervous system for healthy, lasting love.

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.

By Orit Krug  |  August 3rd, 2021

Let’s talk about why you keep looking for what’s wrong in your relationship.

It’s not like you’re ALWAYS looking for what’s wrong in your relationship, right? 

One day you’re totally in love with your partner, thinking how perfect they are for you, and how you’re going to be together forever.

Then the next day, you’re plagued with thoughts like, “I don’t know if this is going to work out” as you point out all the things that they’re not doing right.

Maybe they didn’t text you exactly when you wanted them to. 

Or they didn’t say, “I love you” FIRST in 4 days (not that you’re counting, right?)

This dramatic rollercoaster is a strong indication that you have old trauma unresolved in your body.

Old trauma makes you question anything that is potentially hurtful to you.

By nature, relationships are potentially hurtful. Sharing your heart with a partner is an emotional risk. Even in a healthy, stable relationship. 

With old trauma trapped in your body, the tiniest risks can feel like death threats. 

You know in your mind that it’s not a huge deal your partner didn’t text you back on time. You may even come up with a practical explanation. Maybe they got stuck at work or lost service on the train.

But your body isn’t rational. In the 20 minutes that you didn’t hear from them, you experience so much anxiety, it feels like your life is in danger.

This is your old trauma hijacking your body, your emotions, and the way that you relate to your partner.

That’s because your nervous system is now wired to look for all the danger signs that something is wrong in your relationship. Even when they’re not REAL danger signs.

You’re not consciously looking for what’s wrong in the relationship. Your survival system impulsively reacts at the first sign of “danger” which makes you feel unsafe to stay in your relationship.

Your nervous system operates under the belief that love is not safe.

You keep looking for what’s wrong in your relationship because it protects you from getting hurt like you did in the past.

Whether you experienced trauma in childhood, a romantic relationship, or both, you learned that it is NOT safe to give or receive love.

Even in a healthy relationship today, your survival system still picks out the tiniest pieces of “evidence” that you will not be safe with your partner.

This is also known as hypervigilance. Like an animal in the wild looking for any sign of a predator. They must pay extremely close attention to any noise, vibration, or shadow that indicates they could get eaten alive.

Now, we are civilized humans, but we are also animals who evolved from living this exact way in the wild. 

When your partner forgets to pick up your favorite bag of chips at the supermarket, or looks at you a certain way that feels “off”… it feels like your relationship is no longer a safe place to be.

It’s usually one little thing that sets you off. Suddenly, it feels like you’re not going to survive your relationship. As if you’re going to be eaten in the wild.

This is NOT your fault or a reflection of your character. You cannot change the wiring of your nervous system with “positive thoughts” or affirmations. You can’t just decide that you’re going to stop looking for what’s wrong in your relationship.

You must rewire your nervous system in order to break the unhealthy pattern of looking for “signs” that your partner will hurt you.

Rewire your nervous system to feel safe, happy, and excited in your relationship.

My client Corrie used to spend hours in her head thinking about leaving her marriage.

She fantasized about running away and how things would be better if she wasn’t with her partner.

Once we began to release old trauma from her body, her brain understood the difference between her current reality and past trauma (her husband is not a monster from her past).

After she completed my Let Love In program, I asked her what changed in her marriage.

She said…“I see him again.”

“Instead of the scary version I painted of him, I can see him and all the expressions of love and devotion that he does every day.” 

Before the program, she had only focused on his flaws and the ways in which he could hurt her. 

But once she rewired her nervous system and took off her trauma-tinted glasses, she was hopeful and excited about their relationship.

Her entire world transformed. Actually to a point where her entire family needed to get used to this new, evolved version of Corrie.

The Corrie who wouldn’t come home and flip out immediately. It took some time to believe that her new baseline is calm, present, and affectionate. 

Corrie had spent YEARS in therapy trying to work this out without success and sadly almost gave up on her relationship that she’s now so happy to be in. 

You have the ability to experience this transformation too.

Get on the right path to healing trauma from your body and nervous system.

Many people spend decades and thousands of dollars in traditional therapies trying to heal their trauma. Unfortunately, even the most popular therapies are scientifically shown to be limited in accessing trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body.

Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal from the physical body or the nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for so many people. They often blame themselves for being “un-healable” and decide that they’re broken.

This is NOT true!

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing from the past, because we all have wiring and neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection, to love and openness.

My unique, scientific-backed process via Dance Therapy has helped hundreds of clients finally heal from past trauma and transform their relationship (even after decades of trying in other therapies).

You can heal too, but you need the right methodology.

Sign up for my online course (ranges from free to $20 USD) to begin a unique, body-based learning experience that will teach you:

• Science-backed education about how trauma is stored in your body and nervous system. You’ll gain an understanding why it has NOT been your fault you haven’t healed yet from past trauma.
• Gentle, guided body-based movement that is necessary for integrated healing. This is crucial if you want your mind’s intentions to match your body’s behaviors in relationships.
• An embodied approach to healing that has helped hundreds of clients break unhealthy relationship patterns and let in healthy, lasting love.

Click here now to sign up!