By Orit Krug  |  March 25th, 2022

The level of despair and grief can feel unbearable when a marriage is over.

Even if it was fully your choice, it still feels horrible to end your marriage.

Even when you know that it’s not your fault, you can blame yourself far too much.

You may feel like damaged goods, unable to keep a lasting loving relationship in your life.

It’s important during these times not to beat yourself up, even when you know you did everything you possibly could to save your relationship.

Try to be kind to yourself. Acknowledge that you’re going through a deep period of loss and heartbreak. Something you once had high hopes for is now in shambles. You must allow yourself the time and space to grieve.

5 signs of trauma after your relationship ends

Divorce is widely recognized as the top 5 stressors any human can endure in life.

When we experience this intense stress, it often creates trauma in our nervous systems and bodies.

Plus, if you already experienced trauma before your divorce, you risk storing even more trauma in your body and brain.

What does it actually mean to have ‘trauma’? Trauma means that there’s a disruption to your nervous system functioning.

Your nervous system is your survival system that automatically detects danger in your environment. It helps you stay alive and safe in risky situations. It tells your body when and how to act through the fight, flight, freeze, and shutdown responses.

Here are 5 signs of trauma after your relationship ends.

1. Your anxiety is through the roof.
After experiencing trauma, most situations and relationships feel risky, dangerous, and life-threatening. Even when your logical brain knows you’re fine and safe. You may experience this through intrusive thoughts, rapid heartbeat, shallow breathing, body tension, and more.

Your anxiety is your nervous system and body telling you that you’re not safe. This could be a result of fresh trauma from the divorce, or even more likely, retriggering an old wound of rejection or abandonment.

Now that your relationship is over, you may feel the anxiety of, “I’m going to be alone forever. I’m going to die alone. I’m worthless.” This is a sign of trauma because of the intense anxiety that accompanies these thoughts.

It’s normal to have these worries pass by as your marriage is over. But if it’s intrusive, pervasive, and causing you serious physical distress, it’s a manifestation of trauma.

2. You make “bad decisions.”
You call an ex who cheated on you or you have a one-night stand without protection. Your behavior is impulsive and careless. This may sound like a judgment, but it’s not a reflection of your character. It’s trauma hijacking your nervous system.

When your nervous system endures higher levels of emotional dysregulation, you may engage in risky, impulsive behaviors as an attempt to regulate. In other words, when you feel like sh*t, you chase a temporary high as a way to activate feel-good hormones and chemicals. This may happen through drugs, a new relationship, sex, and more.

As we know, those temporary highs never last. They end up making us feel even worse and more dysregulated after the high wears off.

3. You shut everyone out.
Your loved ones are available to support you emotionally but you turn them away. You may feel undeserving of love and attention. You may feel angry that they’re not offering you the “right” attention so you push it away completely. Perhaps you feel an ambivalence of wanting and not wanting their support simultaneously.

Physically, you isolate yourself in bed, on the couch, or elsewhere. You feel stuck and can’t move. Sometimes it feels like you’re not really even “there.” This resembles the “freeze” response, where your nervous system and body are coping with the trauma by dissociating, numbing, and isolating yourself from everyone.

4. You attempt to repair the relationship.
If your entire body and soul KNOWS that your relationship is over, but you still try to salvage it at its final stage, this may be a sign of trauma. This can result from feeling unsafe to be on your own, emotionally, physically, and financially. The danger of being alone feels greater than the danger of being in your broken relationship, so your nervous system does whatever it needs to find “safety.” Even when it’s not safe.

This may not be a sign of trauma if you made the decision to split too soon. You may realize you didn’t try hard enough to repair or improve the relationship with professional support. This will probably show up in feelings of regret.

However, if your decision to repair the relationship feels full of anxiety, fear, and an intuitive sense that it’s the wrong decision, it’s probably trauma.

5. You swear off relationships.
This can be an aligned lifestyle choice for some people, but most of the time, it’s trauma. As human beings, we are biologically wired to be intimately connected to other human beings. The desire for romantic relationships is natural. Swearing off relationships isn’t.

Even after your marriage has been over for a period of time and you meet someone new, you notice you have trust issues, jealousy, fear of intimacy, and sabotaging behaviors. Your mind may say that you’re ready for a relationship, but your nervous system is still traumatized and won’t let love in.

This is a strong indication that you haven’t healed from your previous breakups. Until you do, you’ll keep projecting old fears and traumas onto your new relationships.

The importance of healing yourself when a marriage is over

We’ve worked with many clients who’ve already been through multiple marriages and divorces. Most of the time, each marriage ends for the same reasons.

They felt trapped, they lost the spark, they weren’t getting their needs met, etc.

Take my client Linda, for example. She brought her trauma and fear of abandonment into every new relationship. She was intensely afraid of rejection, so she avoided expressing her real needs and did not speak up for herself.

Her relationship foundations often built on her partner’s needs and none of hers. She often used to say, “No problem!” Or “I’ll do whatever you want!” as she buried her own voice.

As she became more comfortable to be herself, she began to feel really frustrated. It was always at that point she finally felt the courage to use her voice and contribute her opinion when she never did before.

Her partners became thrown-off and confused.

“I thought you liked hanging out with my family… now you’re saying you don’t want to see them anymore?” One of her past partners said.

She felt they were seeing his family a bit too much, but she never voiced that before. She wanted to please him and make sure he thought, “She’s a keeper.”

He got hurt because she suddenly changed her feelings about spending time with his loved ones.

She got hurt because he wasn’t respecting her needs.

This dynamic bled into their everyday life and tasks. She made increasingly more requests of how she wanted the relationship to be different. She wanted him to go to bed at the same time and eat dinner together every night. But that’s not how they were doing things for years.

Some of these requests were not aligned with her ex’s lifestyle. He was a night owl and liked his quiet time after she went to sleep. This made Linda often feel like, how could she stay in a relationship where her partner didn’t care about her needs? She ended up unsatisfied and hurt. She had no other choice but to end the relationship.

And that’s how all the other ones ended, too.

I’m not trying to say this was Linda’s fault. Linda took full ownership of her part when she came to work with us. She knew she created a self-fulfilling prophecy in her relationships that confirmed her needs were not important. This was a repetition of her trauma of abandonment, which she perpetuated in each new relationship.

However, her awareness wasn’t enough to stop the pattern sneaking into every relationship.

Whatever trauma you endured in your life will continue to bleed into your relationships until it is resolved through the BODY and nervous system. Conscious and subconscious unhealthy patterns will make you feel like your love life is a broken record, until they are released.

It’s friggin’ exhausting and frustrating because it feels like nothing changes no matter how much awareness you already have.

How to heal and become ready for future relationships

True, lasting healing for healthy relationships is about rewiring your nervous system to feel safe with love, intimacy, and conflict.

If none of those things feel safe to your body, then you’ll continue to react impulsively and shut down in relationships.

If you’re like many of my clients, you’ve already done so much cognitive & mindset work, and therapy. You may have even dabbled in alternative healing like energy work and EMDR. But you’re still feeling stuck or worse.

It’s NOT because you’re broken or damaged goods. The missing ingredient is movement. Intentional movement of your body is a necessary element to release trauma and create healthy relationship patterns.

We store trauma and subconscious habitual patterns inside our bodies, and the language of the body is movement. Thus, if you want to access and release trauma, you must connect safety to your body through movement.

This may sound a little woo-woo, but it’s scientifically valid.

The logical and verbal part of our brains go offline during trauma and extreme stress. Thus, memories associated with trauma are not stored in words. They are stored non-verbally as fragments of sensations felt within the body.

Movement of the body stirs up different sensations tied to trauma memories, from which we have an opportunity to work with them through movement.

One of our former clients, Mara, stirred up old trauma by embodying slower movements in session with my Embodiment Coach, Sarah.

This felt extremely unsafe for Mara because her first trauma was being abandoned in a house fire. She would have literally died back then, if she moved slowly.

When this came up in session, Sarah was able to help Mara regulate her emotions and nervous system through this fear. This helped Mara stay connected to her body and the therapeutic relationship, instead of dissociating and reacting like she usually does in her real-life relationship.

This was transformational for Mara’s relationship because her reactions with her partner were quick, reactive and impulsive. She did not previously know how or feel safe to slow down her emotions.

Now, she is able to feel her emotions as they arise and slow them down, which helps her CHOOSE a healthier way to respond to her partner instead of pushing him away.

It’s incredible how transformation in the body mirrors a direct transformation in healing and relationships!

Get on the right path to healing trauma from your body and nervous system.

Many people spend decades and thousands of dollars in traditional therapies trying to heal their trauma. Unfortunately, even the most popular therapies are scientifically shown to be limited in accessing trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body.

Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal from the physical body or the nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for so many people. They often blame themselves for being “un-healable” and decide that they’re broken.

This is NOT true!

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing from the past, because we all have wiring and neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection, to love and openness.

My unique, scientific-backed process via Dance Therapy has helped hundreds of clients finally heal from past trauma and transform their relationship (even after decades of trying in other therapies).

You can heal too, but you need the right methodology.

Sign up for my online course (ranges from free to $20 USD) to begin a unique, body-based learning experience that will teach you:

• Science-backed education about how trauma is stored in your body and nervous system. You’ll gain an understanding why it has NOT been your fault you haven’t healed yet from past trauma.
• Gentle, guided body-based movement that is necessary for integrated healing. This is crucial if you want your mind’s intentions to match your body’s behaviors in relationships.
• An embodied approach to healing that has helped hundreds of clients break unhealthy relationship patterns and let in healthy, lasting love.

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By Orit Krug  |  March 15th, 2022

You’ve probably heard that self-love is necessary to have a healthy, lasting relationship, but how do you put it into practice when you’ve experienced so much past trauma?

Let’s begin by talking about what self-love really means.

Social media will have you believe that self-love means having a morning routine, treating yourself to a mani-pedi, or eating a “healthy diet.”

There are tons of messages telling you what you “should” do to show yourself more love. But this actually creates more frustration and a louder inner-critic when you can’t keep up with these impossible standards.

Self-love isn’t about checking things off a list! Self-love is a state of being that constantly moves, evolves, and shifts. It’s not a one-stop destination. It’s an ongoing journey where you’re consistently meeting your needs.

Simply put: self-love is about being able to feel your feelings without disconnecting, numbing, or escaping your body.

If you disconnect from your body whenever you feel a difficult emotion, you essentially tell yourself that you’re only worthy of love when you’re happy or “positive.” That you don’t deserve attention or care when you’re angry, sad or lonely.

Imagine if you were always there for yourself, no matter what you feel? What would it be like if you knew how to connect to your body (i.e., self hug, long shower) to give yourself EXACTLY what you need?

I used to throw objects across the room, pull at my own hair, and basically abuse myself whenever I was upset.

Now, I love myself more each time I hold my own hand through a really difficult period of my life. Sometimes I literally hold my own hand!

Why self-love is crucial part of healthy relationships

If you aren’t comfortable staying connected to your body through difficult emotions, how could you possibly sustain a healthy relationship?

In healthy, long-term relationships, it’s necessary to be able to work harmoniously together through difficult conversations, situations, and traumas (i.e., the death of a parent or child).

If you’re too ashamed, defensive, or guarded to BE in your feelings with your partner, then you’ll inevitably sabotage or push them away. Even if all you want is to pull them closer and receive their support.

Before working with my team, my client Sheri did not love herself. She couldn’t stand being in her own skin. She did everything possible to disconnect from her emotions and her body.

She withdrew from her marriage and shut out her partner every time they had the slightest conflict. The feelings that arose inside of her felt so ugly that she couldn’t allow her partner to see her in those moments.

This brought them to the brink of separation because it was impossible to connect with Sheri. It was such an uphill battle to work through the normal conflicts that arise in long-term relationships.

Once Sheri developed the ability to love herself by staying connected to her body AND her partner through uncomfortable emotions, her relationship healed too. They were able to form a partnership much stronger and deeper than she’d ever been able to with anyone else before.

Hence, you must be able to love yourself in order to feel safe to be loved and seen by anyone else.

How self-love helps to heal past trauma

The very first step needed to truly heal trauma is to develop a safe connection with your body.

You must be able to feel safe in your body even through feeling difficult emotions. THAT is the essence of self-love.

Without this first step, you will not be able to truly heal your trauma.

The majority of trauma survivors spend decades in talk therapy using words to try to process their past trauma. Yet they never establish a safe connection with their body.

In fact, it’s very common that they use words and talking AS a defense mechanism against being in their bodies.

Even alternative therapies that are designed to rewire the nervous system still often disregard the physical and emotional body of each client.

We’ve worked with so many clients who tried EMDR and end up feeling more disconnected, raw, and triggered. This is extremely disappointing for a modality that’s supposed to be cutting edge in the trauma healing space.

You can do all the fancy energy healings, alternative therapies, and retreats, but if you are not truly LOVING yourself through connecting to your body and the whole range of your emotions… you will not heal.

I know that sounds quite harsh and direct, but wouldn’t you rather so many experts and healers stop sugarcoating this stuff, so you can finally take the right path to feel a LASTING shift?

Let’s talk about how to begin this magical unfolding.

3 powerful steps to develop and practice self-love

There are 3 simple and effective steps to help you develop self-love, if you do them consistently. You can read the steps below for more theoretical background, and then try this free movement meditation for the guided practice.

1. Tune in whenever you feel a sensation arise in your body.
Sensations arise in our bodies every moment of every day. Many of us don’t feel or notice them because we’re extremely busy. Trauma has also taught us to disconnect from feeling emotions in our bodies. However, the first step needed to develop self-love is to start FEELING again.

With this practice, you don’t have to try to feel EVERY sensation. That would be completely overwhelming and obsessive. But when you feel something noticeable–for example, shoulder tension, a drop in your tummy, an overall sense of heaviness–tune in. Don’t escape, numb, or try to fix it by any means.

This will likely feel uncomfortable if you’re used to dissociating from your body. Be kind and gentle with yourself. Perhaps this week you can tune into the sensation for 3 seconds, and next week you can stay with it for 10 seconds. Ease in. This is not a race. It’s a long-term practice and lifestyle.

2. Respond to your sensations with movement.
Once you feel comfortable enough to feel and stick with sensations that arise in your body, you can CHOOSE how you want to respond to that sensation. This is probably very different from what you do now if you’re still unhealed from trauma. Most trauma survivors feel an uncomfortable or unfamiliar sensation and react impulsively before even realizing what happened.

For instance, you might feel a twinge in your stomach as you hear your friend vent about her partner, to which you immediately pour yourself another glass of wine. I’m not saying that you shouldn’t drink wine or that it’s a bad thing (I like my occasional glass of red!). I’m simply demonstrating an example of immediate and subconscious reactions to “fix” sensations in our bodies. Once you’re aware of your sensations and you can be with them, instead of pushing them away, you can make more of a subconscious choice. You may even give yourself enough space to ask yourself, “Do I really need to drink more right now?”

Perhaps you hear and feel a “no.”

This gives you the opportunity to give yourself what your body really needs in that moment. Maybe once you allow yourself to feel more of that twinge in your stomach and observe how it’s moving (or not moving) within you. Then, you wait for an impulse on how you truly want to respond. Perhaps your body leads you to put your hands firmly on your tummy, as a way of supporting yourself through that sensation.

Maybe you notice that you need a big, deep belly breath to relax.

There’s no right or wrong.

The point of this step is that you’re actually LISTENING to your body and meeting your needs, instead of ignoring or escaping them.

3. Allow your body to lead.
You already started letting your body lead in step 2 by following your inner impulses to respond to your sensations. For step 3, you can continue the practice of letting your body lead you, instead of your mind.

You can wait for the next impulse to respond with any movement. Maybe the next impulse you have is to stand up and walk somewhere else. You feel pulled to change your immediate environment, so you go to the bathroom. Perhaps once you’re in the bathroom you catch yourself in the mirror and feel an impulse to run your fingers through your hair. Your mind might say, “Don’t do that. People are looking and will think you’re conceited.” But your body really feels this urge, so you let your body lead and forget what you “should” or “shouldn’t” do.

This is a constant practice that requires a lot of your conscious intention at first, but with practice and consistency, it gets easier. It becomes more natural to ask yourself, “What does my body want right now?” And to be able to listen and follow through.

Before you know it, you’ll be listening to your every deep desire without even thinking about it. You’ll be so in tune with your needs that you feel so much love for yourself! It’s truly a beautiful way to live.

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.

By Orit Krug  |  March 2nd, 2022

Do you often think, “I feel unloved” when reflecting on your relationship?

Are you wondering if it’s because your partner doesn’t actually love you? Or have you struggled with feeling unloved no matter how good your relationship gets?

I remember feeling unloved at the beginning of my relationship with my husband. I constantly sought reassurance from him. I needed him to PROVE that he cared about me and wouldn’t leave me.

Unfortunately, this created resentment between us. There was a big hole inside of me that he could not fill no matter how much he tried.

Words didn’t help me feel loved. Acts of service weren’t enough. His physical affection was great, but that all went out the window whenever we wanted different levels of intimacy.

There was a huge void inside of me that nobody outside of me could satisfy. Which got even worse when my partner started pulling away. He didn’t have much left to give and we both started to feel hopeless after I told him a thousand times that I would break my unhealthy patterns of seeking validation.

What causes you to feel unloved in your relationship?

If you know you’re in a healthy, loving relationship but you still feel unloved, this is a strong indication of unresolved trauma.

Most of my clients experienced their first trauma in childhood. That means that their parents, or primary caretakers, who were supposed to love them and protect them, abandoned them instead.

When you’re a child and one of your parents abandons or neglects their love or care for you, who do you blame?

Yourself.

You think, “It’s my fault.”

“They must not love me. I’m not loveable.”

You develop this deep subconscious belief that YOU are not enough and THAT is why you’ve experienced such betrayal and hurt.

You start to say and do anything to seek love and approval from others, wherever & however you can get it.

You build a pattern where the only way to feel loved is through other people’s actions.

Your entire sense of self-worth becomes dependent on what others do.

But it isn’t enough. Even if you get a few minutes of validation and satisfaction, you quickly go back to thoughts and feelings that you aren’t enough. You aren’t worthy of love.

This is why your partner can move the entire world for you, and you still won’t feel loved.

Because you don’t love yourself.

You don’t believe you’re worthy of anyone else’s love.

Is love actually there even if you don’t feel loved?

You may have objective “proof” that your partner loves you, even if you constantly struggle with feeling unloved.

They buy you your favorite snacks from the supermarket, they cook you dinner after you’ve had a hard day, or suggest for you to take yourself out while they watch the kids.

But the moment your partner messes up, or forgets something, you take it as even bigger proof that they must really NOT love you.

Because your idea and belief of love is so dependent on what your partner does (or doesn’t do), it doesn’t take much for you to flip flop.

The reality is, your partner is human and they will make mistakes. They will get stressed and forget to cook you dinner for a few weeks or more. They’ll struggle with their own emotional hardships and disconnect more than usual. As a human being, they are bound to mess up.

If you become extra needy and “woe is me” every time your partner is extra stressed, tired, or upset, what message do you communicate to them?

You essentially communicate that your feelings and needs are the ONLY ones that matter in the relationship.

This will leave your partner resentful. They will begin to pull away because, ironically, they may start to feel unloved too. Or that you only “love” them when they’re happy and cooperative.

It creates a vicious cycle. As your partner starts pulling away, you feel even less loved. Actually, it “proves” to you that you weren’t loved all along.

This is all an illusion of past trauma tainting the love that could’ve been so much healthier and sustainable.

You never lost the love.

The love is still there.

It’s just being covered up by your defenses and fears.

Conversations to have with your partner about how you feel

If this post is resonating with you, then you’re probably ready to shift this unhealthy dynamic that’s been created out of old trauma.

The only way to begin approaching this subject is with full transparency and vulnerability.

Admit how your past trauma has impacted your ability to feel your partner’s love.

Validate their emotions. Let them know you understand how your actions have caused them to pull away.

Acknowledge that you’re unhappy and regretful that things have become this way, but that you’re ready to change.

These are very scary things to admit out loud when you don’t know how your partner will receive or reciprocate them.

But you have to let down your guard and open your heart to ignite a shift.

Your partner may be caught off guard and not know how to respond. Don’t take this as a sign that they don’t care. Allow them the space to process. After all, you’ve taken plenty of time to process and plan this conversation. They deserve the same.

They’ve built up a guard, too. They’ve learned to protect their heart around you. It will take time for both of you to soften around each other.

The best thing you can do is keep approaching the conversation consistently and vulnerably.

Once your partner seems receptive, you can talk more about how to rebuild your foundation and reignite the love in your relationship.

3 types of intimacy to reignite the love in your relationship

It can be tempting to try to transform your entire relationship all at once. However, you and your partner have spent a lot of time and energy building up walls. Make sure you take these next steps slowly.

Focus on one area of intimacy at a time. Don’t rush in and try to change every area at once.

Which 1 of these 3 types of intimacy would feel the easiest for you and your partner to begin with?

1. Emotional Intimacy

Emotional intimacy indicates a meaningful and mutual connection on an emotional level. You’re comfortable sharing deep & vulnerable thoughts and desires with each other. Some things you may share are your feelings about each other, independent career goals, or regrets about someone you hurt in the past.

You’ll know that your emotional intimacy is improving when you feel emotionally closer to each other. You don’t have to analyze or guess as much what your partner is thinking or feeling (if you have Relationship Anxiety, no amount of emotional intimacy will eliminate the obsessive analyzing/thinking. If this is you, keep reading to the bottom). You have a sense that you know each other well, even when one of you feels more distant or disconnected sometimes.

2. Physical Intimacy

Physical intimacy is expressed through physical touch and affection that is not necessarily sexual. You may make more efforts to hug or embrace each other, hold hands, and lie down close to each other on the couch while you watch TV.

You don’t always have to be physically touching to be physically intimate. You may make intentional choices to move closer together without making contact. You may hold eye contact for longer than usual. Whether you’re touching or not, you connect more deeply through your physical body.

You’ll know your physical intimacy is improving when you both feel more comfortable and safe to be physically closer. You’ll have less self-doubt about whether you should give your partner a hug, and you won’t feel as threatened when your partner doesn’t want a hug at the exact moment you offer (given that you healed your trauma of abandonment/rejection). You’ll also have more spontaneous physical interactions without thinking about it so much.

3. Sexual Intimacy

Sexual intimacy includes the act of sex and any form of connection that occurs leading up to, during, and after penetration. Sexual intimacy does NOT have to include penetration. Sexual intimacy also involves sensual, pleasurable connection that may or may not take place in the bedroom. Every relationship can have their own version and meaning of sexual intimacy!

You’ll know your sexual intimacy is improving when you can talk more easily about sex and find a rhythm that feels good for both of you (whether you need to plan ahead of time, or can be more spontaneous). An indication of strong & healthy sexual intimacy is feeling safe, open, and not pressured to be sexually intimate with each other.

How to practice self-love to ensure you improve intimacy

If you don’t love yourself, or believe you are lovable, then you won’t be able to improve any of these types of intimacy in your relationship.

Even when you have all the evidence that your partner adores you, you’ll have a stronger voice inside that says it’s not real or going to last. This will make you sabotage any efforts or progress already being made.

The most sustainable and effective way to practice self-love is by staying connected to your body even when you’re feeling upset, anxious, or hurt.

Most trauma survivors instinctually disconnect or dissociate from their bodies whenever they feel a difficult emotion. This is not their fault. Their nervous systems have been rewired to automatically protect themselves from real AND imagined pain.

However, if you develop a practice where you stay connected to yourself even through the uncomfortable sensations, you will show yourself that you are worthy of being loved no matter how you feel.

You’ll stop pushing away your partner whenever you feel vulnerable. You’ll already be comfortable seeing yourself and being with yourself through your discomfort; therefore, you’ll no longer need to hide behind unhealthy behaviors. You’ll trust that your partner can handle it too.

You might even start to believe that they love you even more for being raw and authentic instead of impulsive, angry, or shut down.

You will genuinely feel loveable and LOVED.

You deserve to find peace in your body & let love in without fear.

The latest trauma research shows that cognitive-based therapies cannot fully access trauma stored in the non-verbal brain and body. Even alternative approaches, such as EMDR and Brain-Mapping, are often not enough to fully heal trauma from the physical body or nervous system.

This makes trauma healing a very frustrating journey for many people. They end up feeling stuck, even after spending decades of therapy and gaining so much self-awareness.

If you relate, you might’ve considered giving up on your healing. You might wonder if a fully integrated healing is not possible for you.

Every human being is 100% neurophysiologically capable of healing deeply & wholly, because we all have neural pathways that can be rewired from fear and overprotection to love, joy, and openness.

But even with an effective neuroscience-backed Somatic approach, going to weekly sessions could still require many more months or years until you feel that “click” in your body that finally makes you feel WHOLE.

That’s why I run Somatic Trauma Healing Retreats where many people experience accelerated, integrated, and lasting healing in just a few days.

(Disclaimer: each attendee must go through an application process that ensures this accelerated healing is possible for them).

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, I’d love to invite you to check out my retreats! There are several options from women’s healing, plant-assisted, 1:1, and more.