Poly Healing Retreat
Embody deeper self-love & security; love freely without fear – Cantabria, Spain | Sep 22 – 25, 2025
Come join our polyamory retreat, where we’ll celebrate your growth, work through challenges, and support each other on our brave & bold journey of Non-Monogamy.
While your journey has exposed unresolved traumas and some of the biggest relational challenges in your life, you’re still standing strong as ever – ready to heal and grow even more.
Books and podcasts can be helpful, but we need real-life embodied, interactive, therapeutic experiences to accelerate & integrate true transformation.
We’ll come together in magical Spain to help you embody deeper love for yourself & your partners, without unnecessary fear or sabotage. That way, you’re able to surrender to the deep, satisfying & expansive love that you truly crave and deserve.
Already feeling the YES in your body? Start your application here.
Client Reviews
Jessica
“My understanding of polyamory deepened as I experienced profound, embodied love with a group of ‘strangers’ on retreat. Through somatic practices, I learned to ask for and receive pleasure without guilt or shame. I also shifted from a pattern of attacking to vulnerably expressing my needs without causing hurt. I’ve built deeper trust in myself and enhanced my communication skills, empowering me to create more healthy & fulfilling connections at home.”
Stacy
“I used to rely on others to regulate me, but now I’m more attuned to my body and its needs. I’m discovering a newfound peace within myself, no longer resisting what my body is telling me. This retreat gave me the confidence I was seeking, with much less reactivity. The younger version of me, often triggered in my poly journey, is now more calm, grounded, and centered.”
The Experience
Set in a heavenly location where luxury meets magical mountain views, this 12-bedroom mansion creates an idyllic setting for a relaxing stay. Secluded enough for complete privacy and close enough to the beach, your body will naturally soften & open up to evolve deeper on your poly journey.
The Space
Breathe in the coastal air & take in the beautiful sunrises and sunsets as you relax in the pool or the garden. This is the perfect place to rejuvenate and heal as you absorb the grounding, life-affirming energy emanating through this space!
Common Spaces
Step inside the mansion to find a stylish interior that matches the enchanting surroundings of the area. Minimal yet comfortable, the main living rooms feature large windows gazing at outstanding views of Cantabria’s rolling hills.
Accommodations
Modern, clean, and luxurious rooms ensures a good night’s sleep and waking up energized for your retreat experience.
All-Inclusive Price
Sliding Scale: $2,000 – $3,000 USD per person
LIMITED: 4 x spots at $1,250 each
Includes full retreat experience, sessions, meals, accommodations & more.
Please apply below to be considered for the upcoming retreat on Sep 22 – 25, 2025.
Applications close August 15, 2025. Limited spots available.
WATCH THE PUERTO RICO AFTERMOVIE!
WATCH THE COSTA RICA AFTERMOVIE!
WATCH THE GREECE AFTERMOVIE!
Client Reviews
Nathan
“It was a paradise, created by the people who surrounded me, offering presence, safety, and understanding that nurtured my healing. I no longer feel shattered or broken-hearted. Instead, I feel whole again, with a warmth in my chest where there once was a black hole. I feel literally stitched back together inside by the loving stitches of each person’s support and love. I feel more alive and grounded.”
Luis
“Coming into the retreat open yet skeptical, I was more used to talk therapy than movement. The somatic practices were groundbreaking, helping me break through mental blocks and address deep struggles I’d been unable to process rationally. Engaging with the parts of myself I often avoid, without my usual defenses, allowed me to find greater understanding and inner peace.”
Kristen
“At the retreat, I felt genuinely welcomed and deeply supported in naming my needs. The consent and shame sessions showed me I don’t have to carry everything alone – I can ask for support. Moving emotions through my body helped the insights land in a way that talking alone never has. My shifts feel embodied and easier to hold onto. I left feeling more whole, more heard, and more confident in honoring & voicing my needs.”
Gabe
“I was initially apprehensive about the retreat, unsure of what to expect and how I’d fit in. But I decided to commit fully and see where it would take me. The permission to be myself, and the supportive, grounded leadership from you & Dedeker helped me feel at ease quickly. The retreat offered a perfect balance of challenge and relaxation, pushing me to grow while also providing a sense of calm. My biggest breakthrough was learning to ask for and enjoy being taken care of, rather than always doing everything for myself.”
Sample Itinerary
7:00am – 8:00am: Enjoy a warm, soothing breakfast cooked by our top-rated chefs.
8:00am – 9:30am: Morning Session #1: Embodied Parts Work led by Orit. Shift Insecurity, Anxiety & Jealousy into Deep Self-Love & Compersion.
10:30am – 12:00pm: Morning Session #2: Release Shame, Address Guilt, & Navigate Jealousy: Somatic Experiencing Session with Dedeker. Free yourself of body-stored shame while embodying the most confident and secure version of yourself.
12:30pm: Connect with other open-minded poly folx over lunch. Expand out of your comfort zone by practicing open-hearted communication and vulnerability through new interactions.
1:00pm – 3:30pm: Relax in the garden, dip into the pool, book a free 1:1 session with Dedeker, or go on an off-site excursion. You may practice nervous system regulation techniques while swimming at the beach, or practice deeper self-love as you adventure into the city.
4:00pm – 5:30pm: Afternoon Session: Embodied Conflict Resolution with Orit. Release Past Wounds & Move Gracefully Through Common Non-Monogamy Challenges.
6:30pm – 8:30pm: Indulge in a luxurious, unique, and traditional food experience as we dine out in Cantabria. Treat your body to a pleasure-filled dining experience as you socialize with other poly folx.
Exact details and times are subject to change. More surprises and add-ons currently in progress!
Group picture from Poly Retreat in Puerto Rico – Oct 2024
More Client Reviews
Jay
“At the end of the retreat, I felt the most internally calm that I have felt in a long time. I felt the love of my partner stronger than I have in a long time—specifically the feeling of being loved.”
John
“A major breakthrough for me was visualizing my higher self as something embodied, not just a distant set of future goals. It became something I could step into, like putting on a new suit. This led to my second major shift: seeing the past versions of me, not as shadows to avoid, but as parts of me that will always be present in my movements and habits. This realization rocked me. I finally “placed” & integrated a more evolved version of me within my body.”
Jess R.
“Since the retreat, I feel a lot more compassion for myself and acceptance of my current relationship situation. I definitely feel a deeper connection with listening to my body. Through the somatic process, I realized how much of an impact a family member has had on my big explosive energy, and how I want to move through this world with more subtle direction. I am now practicing level-headedness with clear, direct communication, instead of big emotional outbursts.”
Owen
“Embodied consent became a game changer for me, which I didn’t expect. Just noticing how my body responds when I say ‘yes’ to something that’s really a ‘no’ has opened my eyes to opportunities where I can assert myself. This awareness has empowered me to honor my ‘no’s with confidence, creating a safer, more secure space for myself & my relationships by standing firm in my boundaries.”
Jamie
“I now realize that I am capable and find comfort in connecting with emotions in my body. I just needed to tune in to the frequency at which my body was communicating with me.”
Sabina
“Seeing that other people have the same struggles that I do was really helpful – even people who are more “advanced” than I am.”
Recommended Prerequisites
This is a highly vetted, niched retreat experience. Your application is more likely to be approved if you fit the guidelines below.
1. You identify as Non-Monogamous / Non-Traditional / Polyamorous.
This retreat is specifically designed for those who are poly, non-traditional, or consensually exploring “openness.” You may be a great fit whether you are new or have plenty of experience dating other people romantically, platonically and/or sexually. We will support you wherever you are on your journey.
This is NOT a retreat for swingers, couples, or individuals only in search of sex, as there will be a strong emphasis on healing past wounds and building a capacity for deeper love. Sex is not the main focus of this retreat – this will be a pressure-free, consent-centered environment!
Group picture from Poly Retreat in Greece – Apr 2025
2. You’ve been making an effort to heal & grow.
You’ve been going to therapy and/or learning trauma, attachment & erotic-based information through books, online forums, and podcasts. You’ve made an effort to apply your knowledge to real-life dating scenarios; however, the ups and downs are still very challenging. This is not your fault! You can gain all the insight in the world, but if you don’t activate your social engagement system in the brain & body, then you can’t truly rewire old habits and integrate lasting change (Stephen Porges, The Polyvagal Theory).
The 22-person maximum on this retreat is intentional. We will have an intimate experience where you’ll be safely guided by Board-Certified Therapists to apply your insights TO real-time relationships with your co-participants. These real-life therapeutic experiences give you the opportunity to create new neural pathways that stimulates long-term, embodied change.
3. You understand that attachment & love are embodied experiences.
“Attachment is an embodied experience. It is first through being present with ourselves in our own bodies, and present with our loved ones, that the rest of the attachment-based skills and capacities of being polysecure can be developed and expressed. As an adult who wants to function from a secure place in your relationships, you can’t affirm, attune, repair, or even play if you are not here with yourself or with your partners.” – Jessica Fern, Polysecure
To strengthen any attachment-based relationship, we must be intentional with how we non-verbally communicate through our gestures, posture, and tone of voice. Past unresolved trauma often blocks the ability to interact in relationships without underlying aggression or fear. Our specific movement interventions have shown to break trauma-driven patterns from the physical body (Bruce Perry, Neurosequential Model) in order to help you be present in relationships and attune through mirroring, matching, softening your body, and so much more.
You’ll experience neuroscience-backed Dance/Movement Therapy (DMT), Somatic Experiencing, & Art Therapy sessions within the privacy of our retreat property. The sessions will be focused on deepening emotional intimacy & love, embodying authenticity and expansion around pleasure, releasing shame from the body, embodied conflict resolution, and more.
4. You crave individualized intervention.
There’s an endless amount of information and guidance on how to improve self-love through meditation, yoga, and nervous system regulation “hacks.” While these can be helpful as daily habits, they are often used as blanket prescriptions that aren’t individualized to meet the complex needs of your Window Of Tolerance, which is necessary for lasting change (Dan Siegel, UCLA – Psychiatry).
During the retreat, you’ll connect to your body so deeply and authentically, that you will learn customized self-care techniques that work specifically for you, even within the group experience. This is not something that anyone (including myself or Dedeker) could possibly predict for you, until moving with you and witnessing how your body responds to different healing interventions. We will pinpoint this together so you can bring it home and keep embodying the next best version of you.
5. You want to experience full-body change.
It’s one thing to experience transformation in the safety of a therapy session. It’s a whole different story once you truly integrate these aha-moments and shifts, out in the real world. This is one of the reasons why so many people experience healing within the privacy of a session with their therapist, but then they don’t see it translate once they step back into their real-life relationships.
During our sessions, you’ll be guided to apply and integrate personal shifts in real-life relationship interactions, amongst other people, and through situations that require real-world decisions. For instance, if another participant is getting too close to you in an interactive experience, we will help you regulate your nervous system, stay grounded in your body, and move in a way that confidently and lovingly asserts your need for space.
This will give you the confidence and experience to follow through on life-changing shifts that often get left behind in the 4 walls of the therapy room.
6. You’re willing to unlearn.
We view Polyamory as more than a personal or partnered journey. Polyamory often invites us to unlearn outdated social conditioning, examine our privilege and recognize how we’ve misused our power. Polyamory can expose our internalized beliefs & microaggressions against marginalized populations. The overall journey can inspire us to become more loving & accepting towards all humans.
Given the diversity of the group that typically comes together on this retreat, the interactions and relationships you create with fellow participants will likely provide the opportunity to unlearn, consider, and eventually shift your own prejudices & biases towards others. Ultimately, we’d love for you to leave the retreat feeling more confident about embodying more love for yourself, your partners AND all other humans in a new, expansive way.
We acknowledge that we are White women leading this retreat and commit to meticulously examine & own our own sh*t – both personally & professionally.
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What Clients Have Said:
“We both feel that we’ve improved the way we communicate and express our feelings. We have a newfound ability to better and accurately receive each other’s communication. We’re no longer threatened by our different needs for space, and when we’re ready to reconnect, we come back to each other much stronger than ever before.”
– Michael & Claire
“Looking back, our conflicts weren’t really disasters. It was us looking through a screen colored by past trauma. Once we healed the way we were physically reacting to each other, it changed everything for us in a way that nothing else ever had.”
– Justin & Julianne
“We’ve opened up an emotional connection that we hadn’t been able to feel even after years of therapy and coaching. As we’ve worked through our trauma together, we now feel safer with each other and are no longer emotionally volatile. Even when we argue, we can put the breaks and connect back with more intention and compassion.”
– Greg & Katrina
What Clients Have Said:
“We both feel that we’ve improved the way we communicate and express our feelings. We have a newfound ability to better and accurately receive each other’s communication. We’re no longer threatened by our different needs for space, and when we’re ready to reconnect, we come back to each other much stronger than ever before.”
– Michael & Claire
“Looking back, our conflicts weren’t really disasters. It was us looking through a screen colored by past trauma. Once we healed the way we were physically reacting to each other, it changed everything for us in a way that nothing else ever had.”
– Justin & Julianne
“We’ve opened up an emotional connection that we hadn’t been able to feel even after years of therapy and coaching. As we’ve worked through our trauma together, we now feel safer with each other and are no longer emotionally volatile. Even when we argue, we can put the breaks and connect back with more intention and compassion.”
– Greg & Katrina
ORIT KRUG
Master of Science in Dance/Movement Therapy
Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist
Licensed Creative Arts Therapist (NY)
Orit Krug is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist. Orit specializes in helping individuals & couples heal from past trauma and enjoy healthy, satisfying relationships using her unique approach with dance therapy.
For over 14 years, Orit has transformed the lives of more than 5,000 clients from 14 different countries. Her programs and retreats have helped hundreds break free from unhealthy relationship cycles and experience incredible transformations in their love lives. Before starting her business, Orit led thousands of therapy sessions with psychiatric patients who went from feeling suicidal to joyfully dancing and reigniting their desire to live again within less than an hour.
Orit is the founder of the “Mind Your Body” podcast and has been featured in DailyOM, Glam, ThriveGlobal, The Health Science Journal, INSIDER, and more.
DEDEKER WINSTON
B.A. in Theatre and Communication Arts
Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 & Level 2 Training
Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP)
Dedeker Winston is an educator, Somatic Experiencing practitioner, and co-host of the Multiamory podcast, a research-backed relationship advice show that centers non-traditional relationships. She is the author of The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory and Multamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships.
ORIT KRUG
– Master of Science in Dance/Movement Therapy
– Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist
– Licensed Creative Arts Therapist (NY)
Orit Krug is an award-winning Board-Certified Dance/Movement Therapist. Orit specializes in helping individuals & couples heal from past trauma and enjoy healthy, satisfying relationships using her unique approach with dance therapy.
For over 14 years, Orit has transformed the lives of more than 5,000 clients from 14 different countries. Her programs and retreats have helped hundreds break free from unhealthy relationship cycles and experience incredible transformations in their love lives. Before starting her business, Orit led thousands of therapy sessions with psychiatric patients who went from feeling suicidal to joyfully dancing and reigniting their desire to live again within less than an hour.
Orit is the founder of the “Mind Your Body” podcast and has been featured in DailyOM, Glam, ThriveGlobal, The Health Science Journal, INSIDER, and more.
DEDEKER WINSTON
– B.A. in Theatre and Communication Arts
– Gottman Method Couples Therapy Level 1 & Level 2 Training
– Somatic Experiencing Practitioner (SEP)
Dedeker Winston is an educator, Somatic Experiencing practitioner, and co-host of the Multiamory podcast, a research-backed relationship advice show that centers around non-traditional relationships. She is the author of The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory and Multamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships.
SASHA MALCOLM
Master of Science in Art Therapy
Board-Certified Art Therapist
Licensed Creative Arts Therapist (NY)
Sasha Malcolm MS, ART-BC, LCAT is a Board-Certified Art Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist. Sasha has worked with over 10,000 clients over the last 14 years, primarily helping them access trauma through art-based interventions when traditional therapies have not been enough. Sasha is incredibly talented at holding safe and sacred spaces for people to process past wounds and become the most expressed, free, and authentic version of themselves.
SASHA MALCOLM
– Master of Science in Art Therapy
– Board-Certified Art Therapist
– Licensed Creative Arts Therapist (NY)
Sasha Malcolm MS, ART-BC, LCAT is a Board-Certified Art Therapist and Licensed Creative Arts Therapist. Sasha has worked with over 10,000 clients over the last 14 years, primarily helping them access trauma through art-based interventions when traditional therapies have not been enough. Sasha is incredibly talented at holding safe and sacred spaces for people to process past wounds and become the most expressed, free, and authentic version of themselves.