The Experience

With breathtaking views of the Caribbean ocean, this exclusive 9-bedroom luxurious villa sits on a half-acre of Rincon’s best oceanfront. Secluded enough for complete privacy and steps away from world-renowned surfing beach, Playa Maria, this is the perfect location to unwind, adventure, and evolve deeper on your poly journey.

The Space

Enjoy the Caribbean air and feel the ocean breeze while surrounded by fruit trees and natural flora from the island. Take in the beautiful sunrises and sunsets as you relax in the salwater pool or a hammock. Absorb the grounding & life-affirming energy emanating through this space!

Accommodations

Modern, clean, and luxurious rooms ensures a good night’s sleep and waking up energized for your retreat experience.

All-Inclusive Price

$3,250 USD per person*

 *rooms available for couples, triads, polycules, and solo (poly) individuals.

7 ROOMS LEFT!

Includes full retreat experience, sessions, meals, accommodations, and more.

Please apply below to be considered for the upcoming retreat on Oct 20 – 23, 2024.

Sample Itinerary

11:00am – 12:00pm: Somatic Experiencing session led by Dedeker. Free yourself of body-stored shame & jealousy, while embodying the most confident and secure version of yourself.

12:00pm – 1:00pm: Connect with other open-minded poly folks over lunch. Expand out of your comfort zone by practicing open-hearted communication and vulnerability through new interactions.

Exact details and times are subject to change. More surprises and add-ons currently in progress!

Recommended Prerequisites

This is a highly exclusive, niched retreat experience. Your application is more likely to be approved if you fit the guidelines below.

1. You identify as Polyamorous.

While we support all types of Non-Monogamy, this retreat is specifically designed for those who are poly or “open” to exploring all types of connections that isn’t just about sex. You and your partner(s) must have a moderate amount of experience dating other people romantically, platonically and/or sexually.

This is NOT a retreat for swingers or couples only in search of sex, as there will be a strong emphasis on healing past wounds and building capacity to love deeper. Sex is not the main focus of this retreat – this will be a pressure-free, consent-centered environment!

2. You’ve been making an effort to heal & grow.

You’ve been going to therapy and/or learning trauma, attachment & erotic-based information through books, online forums, and podcasts. You’ve made an effort to apply your knowledge to real-life dating scenarios; however, the ups and downs are still very challenging. This is not your fault! You can gain all the insight in the world, but if you don’t activate your social engagement system in the brain & body, then you can’t truly rewire old habits and integrate lasting change (Stephen Porges, The Polyvagal Theory).

The 7-couple maximum on this retreat is intentional. We will have an intimate experience where you’ll be safely guided by Board-Certified Therapists to apply your insights TO real-time relationships with your co-participants. These real-life therapeutic experiences give you the opportunity to create new neural pathways that stimulates long-term, embodied change.

3. You understand that attachment & love are embodied experiences.

“Attachment is an embodied experience. It is first through being present with ourselves in our own bodies, and present with our loved ones, that the rest of the attachment-based skills and capacities of being polysecure can be developed and expressed. As an adult who wants to function from a secure place in your relationships, you can’t affirm, attune, repair, or even play if you are not here with yourself or with your partners.” – Jessica Fern, Polysecure

To strengthen any attachment-based relationship, we must be intentional with how we non-verbally communicate through our gestures, posture, and tone of voice. Past unresolved trauma often blocks the ability to interact in relationships without underlying aggression or fear. My specific movement interventions has shown to break trauma-driven patterns from the physical body (Bruce Perry, Neurosequential Model) in order to help you be present in relationships and attune through mirroring, matching, softening your body, and so much more.

You’ll experience my neuroscience-backed Dance/Movement Therapy (DMT) approach through sessions within the privacy of our retreat property. The morning session will be focused on deepening emotional intimacy & romantic love, while the evening session will be focused on embodying sexual authenticity and expansion.

4. You crave individualized intervention.

There’s an endless amount of information and guidance on how to improve self-love through meditation, yoga, and nervous system regulation “hacks.” While these can be helpful as daily habits, they are often used as blanket prescriptions that aren’t individualized to meet the complex needs of your Window Of Tolerance, which is necessary for lasting change (Dan Siegel, UCLA – Psychiatry).

During your retreat, you’ll connect to your body so deeply and authentically, that you will learn customized self-care techniques that work specifically for you, even within the group experience. This is not something that anyone (including myself) could possibly predict for you, until moving with you and witnessing how your body responds to different healing interventions. We will pinpoint this together so you can bring it home and keep embodying the next best version of you.

5. You want to experience full-body change.

It’s one thing to experience transformation in the safety of a therapy session. It’s a whole different story once you truly integrate these aha-moments and shifts, out in the real world. This is one of the reasons why so many people experience healing within the privacy of a session with their therapist, but then they don’t see it translate once they step back into their real-life relationships.

During our DMT sessions, you’ll be guided to apply and integrate personal shifts in real-life relationship interactions, amongst other people, and through situations that require real-world decisions. For instance, if another participant is getting too close to you in an interactive experience, I will help you regulate your nervous system, stay grounded in your body, and move in a way that confidently and lovingly asserts your need for space.

This will give you the confidence and experience to follow through on life-changing shifts that often get left behind in the 4 walls of the therapy room.